Toxic Relationships: How to Identify and Heal Them, The Spiritual Way!
What Are Toxic Relationships?
Toxic relationships are ones that are more depleting energetically, than they are fulfilling. Relationships are meant to be an arena of love, giving and mutual spiritual development.
If your relationship is fraught with power struggles, anger, jealousy and frequent fighting that are depleting you of energy and keeping you feeling sad, anxious or afraid- then you can call it a toxic relationship. because it is not sustaining you, it is bringing you down, and probably robbing you of a lot of your energy and happiness.
In the long run, being in such relationships can be harmful to your emotional and physical health. So it’s important to assess what is truly happening, and what you can do to stop it.
Watch the video to learn more!
Are All Toxic Relationships Going To Work Out?
If you’ve already watched the video, then you know my answer!
From my experience, the answer is, unfortunately, NO. Perhaps in a perfect world, and if we were all enlightened beings, we would be able to be in a relationship with anyone who wants to share their life with us. However some situations are just TOO difficult. If ALL there is is hurt, fighting, and emotional distress- this may be nature/spirit’s way of telling you to let go.
However! This is true in extreme cases where it’s just too much drama, or the parties involved do not want to world on the relationship.
When there is willingness to heal the rifts and work on creating a more harmonious and balanced life together, the sky is the limit to what you can achieve!
Because in truth, relationships really are an arena that can help us achieve our greatest personal and spiritual potential!
Read more about that in my blog post!
The Most Important Spiritual Truth To Heal Toxic Relationships
When you are in a committed relationship, and especially one where children are involved, it is most recommended to work to heal it. Most relationships in our times have certain toxic elements to them. This is because our EGO is growing more and more, yet we are not learning the tools and skills of connection that will allow us to work above it (or rather WITH IT).
Learning how to do ego work is essential in relationships, in our world at large (!) because that is how we create relationships and societies that work.
To start doing this, I’ll share the most basic and important tool to doing your spiritual work in your relationship and healing any toxic elements.
Your Partner is Your Mirror
When you see the flaws in your partner, when you feel angry, agitated, critical, annoyed or fully upset- that is the sign that your ego has entered the scene.
You see, your partner is really mirroring to you where you are not in alignment with love.
If you were in alignment with love, viewing your partner from the eyes of higher consciousness, you would see that they are acting the way they are for a reason. You would see that they have past conditioning, or that they are having a rough day, or that they are not feeling great etc. Then you would have compassion for them, or even offer them help.
You would not criticize, call them out or belittle them.
This is true for every relationship that we have, but it’s in our romantic relationships that we often see this most as we are living with a person and interacting on a daily basis.
So really every time anger or criticism comes up, we are given an OPPORTUNITY from spirit to correct our ego, or in other words, our limited perception.
You are given an invitation to grow closer to love and your higher consciousness!
This is constant work, and it’s obviously something we ALL need to be doing. Both people in the partnership need to be willing to work on their reactions and approach for this to work.
I’ll let you in on another secret…we need as many people as possible to do this work TOGETHER! Because ultimately we are one. We are connected in a network of thoughts and emotions that is responsible for how we feel, and how able we are to connect and react from a higher level of thinking. We are influencing each other all the time.
So every small step that we take in the direction of love, acceptance, compassion and connection- you are helping every other person on the planet do the same!
Isn’t that empowering!
Every small step counts, so I’m cheering you on, and hoping that you will leave a comment and ask a question if you have one so that we can support each other in the process!
Author: Tal Mandelbaum
Tal Mandelbaum is a trained social psychologist, a spiritual teacher and a mom of two. She teaches online courses and workshops for people who want to evolve their consciousness and create more love, connection and happiness in their lives and change the world- from the inside out! Follow her on Instagram for more spirituality insights and inspiration!